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Ain’t No Mama Like the One I Got

In honor of Mothers Day, I want to share just a wee bit about my mom. I have mentioned her in some of my previous posts, and will continue to mention and highlight her for as long as I walk this earth. She is the OG Mama Dee, and there just ain’t no mama like the one I got.

She is a freaking ray of sunshine that brings laughter, realness and hope to any room she enters. She exudes confidence and has really pretty pink hair.

My mom is my best friend in this whole wide world. No one else comes close to comparing to her level of commitment, dedication and support she has offered to me in this life.

It wasn’t always easy, I was a terror of a daughter- I tried so hard to push my family away. I did what I wanted, when I wanted. I held on tight to the idea I was right, and no one could tell me differently. My Mom never gave up. She never pushed me out the door. She let me fail. She loved me and showed up for me and never, ever shamed me or gave up on me.

My Mom is one of those #badassmoms. She taught me to be a leader. To be unapologetically me- to not conform or give in to shitty opinions and ideas, she ALWAYS encouraged me to find my own path. At times finding my own way has been difficult, lonely and uncomfortable. My Mom has always been by my side. Even when I fuck up, she’s here, ready to lift me up and try again. Ready to hold my hand and show me how adulting is done. Ready to care for my children when I need help. Ready to listen when I finally open up. She’s always here.

My Mom taught me a lot of things. Ever since I can remember my Mom has been the biggest Cleveland Browns fan I’ve ever met. Her loyalty to the team was somewhat concerning. My whole life I knew from September- December not to ask for shit on Sundays because she was usually in a bad mood due to a Browns loss. It never, ever stopped her from looking forward to the game, getting us all dressed in Browns gear and making a bunch of good football food. And they would lose. Year after year it happened. She taught me about loyalty. We don’t give up hope just because they’re losing.

Every week.

She taught me we love them for them- the bad, the unorganized, the comical, the sometimes surprisingly good. My Moms love is unconditional. I always knew her love for Cleveland football was unconditional, and as I came to realize her faithfulness stretches across the board.

My Mom is loyal AF. Like road dawgs, ride or die she is in it til the wheels fall off and roll away. She has been married to my Dad for 27 years. The shit I’ve seen them go though (put them through) are things I, myself cannot imagine experiencing as a parent. My brother and I have experienced some pretty tough events, and my Mom (and Dad) were there through it all. They always show up.

My Mom not only shows up for me- but her friends. Her love for her people is something I admire, she has so many strong women in her life that support her, that share with her and love her as much as she loves them.

When I told my Mom I was pregnant, I was single at the age of 19. I lived with my parents still, and lived a carefree lifestyle, I was not exactly ready for a baby. Her response was “I’m too young to be a grandma.” I smile when I think about the conversation, because I can picture it perfectly, although it was 8 years ago.

This is the shit she used to dress us in.

We were in my old room. I wish I had a picture, but I’ll briefly describe it for you. It was about 11′ x12′. There was old wood paneling that had been painted over. Each panel was a different bright color. The ceiling had tile on it, and each tile was a different color.

Walking into my old room would give anyone anxiety, it felt like walking into a circus tent. There were “plants” drawn on the walls and at one point I drew the Cleveland skyline with dollar signs raining down in the sky. It was absolutely nuts. But that’s the point. My Mom let me express myself no matter how completely ridiculous I was. She wanted me to find my own path.

Back to her being a Grandma. I lived with my parents at the time. My cat (RIP Action MF Jackson ILYSM) was my best friend. My Mom was there for me, and came to every doctor appointment I asked her to. She was there when I got the news I was having a boy- we cried tears of joy together that I was not going to have a miniature female version of myself. My parents remodeled their house so that I could be comfortable with my new baby. They ripped out that wood paneling and she gave me an adult room, and a nursery for their new grandson.

My Mom was the one standing next to me, holding my hand as I brought my baby into this world. The word Grandma was a bit harsh for her, as she was (is) still a young, hot, 40something year old. We went with Bia. As in BIA BIAAAAAA. Yes, the Lil John song. Whatever, hate on it or don’t. But my Bia rocks. She is the fucking sun in my life.

I have seen her work through her own troubles, heartaches and come out on the other side stronger, wiser and more beautiful than ever before.

A couple years ago, my Mom and I went skydiving. She gets queasy standing on the second story of a balcony, but this B jumped out of a plane at 9,000 feet. We did it together, I was super hyped and into it, she was like really scared and second guessing herself. But she did it. We did it. She’s such a badass I can’t say it enough.

When I think of strong women- I think my mom. When I think of bad bitches- I think my Mom. When I think of cool sock collections- I think of my Mom. When I think of unconditional love- I think of my Mom. When I think of orange converse- I think my mom.

She is what I aspire to be as a mother. Loyal, loving and hopeful. If I can show up for, and support my kids the way my Mom has, and continues to do for me- I have no doubt I will be one of those #badassmoms like her. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Not only on the inside, but the outside too. I look just like her and people often mistake us for sisters. She is so pretty and I look JUST like her 🙂

Sometimes I hear other people talk about their Moms, and I feel so blessed that My Mom is mine. And she’s my best friend. And shes the best Bia ever. And shes cool AF. And shes probably crying reading this.

I love my Mom more than I can type in this post, but I wanted to share with the whole internet world just how much she means to me, and how grateful I am that I have the Mom of the Year.

She used to joke when she made a mistake saying, “I guess there goes my Mom of the year award.” which is funny, because she fucked up a lot. I get my potty mouth from my Mom. I get my stubbornness from my Mom. I get my perpetual lateness from my Mom. I am super sassy because of my Mom. But she also gave me some really positive things.

She fucked up giving us these haircuts.

I get my sense of humor from my Mom. I get my IDGAF attitude from my Mom. I get my love of thrifting and style from my Mom. I got this good hair from my Mom. Most of all- I have an internal feeling of hope, from my Mom.

I have watched this woman for the last 27 years overcome everything and come out stronger, smarter and more willing to follow the paths the Universe lays out for her. She is a freakin superhero and this year I give her the highly sought after Mother of the Year Award.


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IPSY Glam Bag Review- April 2019

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5 sample size beauty products delivered to my door in a shiny pink package for 10 bucks. What did they send me, and was it worth it?

Quick note: I wrote this IPSY GLAM BAG review in the afternoon, before I had the chance to take pictures of my products. I had them on the table next to my computer, and my 2 year old wanted pb &j, so I went to the kitchen to make him that. I came back to see that he had DESTROYED my really pretty eyeshadow and smeared it all over his underwear (because we don’t wear pants unless we’re going in public) and the couch. He ruined my product, but I guess it makes for a better story. Here’s my IPSY review.

IPSY GLAM BAG REVIEW

UNPAID, UNSPONSORED & UNCUT

APRIL 2019


In the past month, I’ve been doing a super unhealthy thing- impulse online shopping. I’m looking at my credit card statement like WTF. I usually don’t spend money like this. But the online game got me, free trials, introductory trial prices and monthly subscriptions. I also always shop through a cashback site such as TopCashBack or Ebates to save more when available.


One of the subscriptions I wasn’t so mad about was the IPSY makeup bag. I received 5 trial size samples of makeup and skincare products- and I’m gonna share my honest review with you- not sponsored, not paid, and no one really cares. But here it is.

I have been seeing IPSY on my feed more and more lately, people sharing pretty photos on instagram with rose petals and champagne in the background- completely unnecessary, but I suppose it works for them. The products are typically higher end brands we like and love, so I peeped the IPSY website to investigate the hype.


What’s up with IPSY?

The website is easy to navigate, and shows a lot of brands they send out in the glam bags. There is a long survey you do before signing up for your bag- and you can customize how often you want to receive certain products. So, as someone who is pretty picky about perfume, I chose to receive perfume samples less often, and as someone who is willing to try any and every mascara- I chose to receive those samples more often. Get it? I also got to customize my preferred shades of blush, eye shadow and lip gloss. I was able to share what my skin type is for facial care products, stuff like that.

What’s in the bag?

The Lemon Bag

I like makeup bags, but really how many do you need? I like this one, because it has a nice lining on the inside that will protect anything else in my suitcase if something spills or leaks, and a zipper to keep things secure. The lemons are cute, although I prefer limes.

makeup bag with lemons on it. Pink shiny package it arrived in.
I like dem Georgia peaches- but you look more like a lemon.

Peach Punch Sweet Foam Cleanser by TONYMOLY

I’ll admit-new facial cleansers freak me out, as I have had breakouts in reaction to trying new things. So I hesitated, and opened this anyways to smell- holy shit, it smells exactly like peach sweet tea. Like extremely good- I was willing to give it a shot. It’s lightweight, and formulated with peach extract and olive oil, and made my skin feel really nice. It’s a keeper.

sample size peach face wash
Look at that peach.

Berry + Juice Vegan Lip Gel in Rose Currant by SERAPHINE BOTANICALS

I’m not a huge fan of lip gloss, I feel like my lips are big and I am always battling chapped lips so drawing attention to them is usually not something I’m in to. So, I was not excited to see lip gloss, especially this super glassy, gel textured one. It’s different than any other lip gloss I have purchased in the last 10 years, I usually go for lip gloss with natural hues and minimal reflect. I tried it, it’s really shiny and reminds me of being 12 with my really glossy lipSmackers singing that Lil Mama song. I guess I’ll keep it, it seems high quality. Maybe I’ll wear it on days where I want a little more color and a lot more shine on my lips.

vegan lipgloss in rose currant color. Floral packaging
Even lipgloss lets you know when it’s totally vegan.

Moods Eyeshadow in Rose Gold Woman by LAURA SANCHEZ

I like this. As a hairstylist I’m supposed to do myself up and wear pretty makeup and take pride in my appearance. As a mom of 3 boys I rarely get time to do that. This eyeshadow got me excited, it’s a highly pigmented metallic, with pinky-rose gold hues, goes on creamy and blends well, the quality is v good. I will definitely be wearing this on a regular basis because it made me feel pretty and made the green in my eyes pop.

mood eyeshadow that is almost gone
Here is is [was]. The super pretty eyeshadow that is smeared all over my couch. My kid is sneaky and fucked it all up for me. I still love him, and I still love this eyeshadow. You better believe I’m gonna scrape what I can out of those edges.

Double Duty Beauty Base Tape Hydrating Primer by TARTE

Say that 3 times fast. I am familiar with Tarte, and I have a few products from them that I like, so I was pleased to see a familiar brand. I also love hydrating primer because it really does help my makeup last. This is a little more sticky than any other primer I have tested, but I think I like it. It smells like coconut and comes out in a thick milky consistency which adds to the pleasant experience. It felt good on my face and helped my makeup look bangin- so I’m gonna go with it.

base tape makeup primer sample. Blue cap, white bottle
You knmow it’s fancy because it has a mirror on the cap.

Rodeo Drive Highlighter by OFRA COSMETICS

I can’t tell you how many highlighters I have purchased, professional brands and drugstore brands- just to feel like they’re either not shiny enough, or too fucking bright and I look like a [really shiny] clown. There was no expectation while opening this product, as I have been let down before. I feel the quality is good, and I like the reflect it gave my skin. It’s just that- a highlighter, and it has a pretty soft golden glow that I think is gonna look really good with a sun kissed tan. I will definitely be trashing at least 3 of my old highlighters to be replaced with this new one. And it’s a huge size so I absolutely see it lasting all summer, and I’m happy.

makeup highlighter compact
It’s a nice size and I’m just really glad my kids didn’t break this too.

IPSY customization

I appreciate how customizable the service has become, and I was really looking forward to getting my first bag. I like that the monthly financial commitment is low, and for 10 bucks a month not only do I get 5 trial sized products, I may find something I absolutely love.


IPSY allows you to customize things like shades you love and skin type, along with how often you want to receive your glam bag. You can do every month or skip months and even add on products for a special discount. The website has a lot of options, so I definitely recommend checking it out. Shipping is included in the $10 a month. I mean, 5 beauty products AND free shipping!? Thats a snag.

Will I continue my IPSY subscription?

Yes I am. The overall experience of setting my preferences and profile was easy, and I felt like I was able to share enough about what I like and dislike to be sent things I would actually purchase. The value of the bag is worth way more than the 10 bucks it cost me, and I got some sweet products I may actually purchase in the future.


I have included my referral link if you are looking to try the IPSY glam bag yourself. https://www.ipsy.com/new?cid=ppage_ref_v1&sid=link&refer=31ee6


I’d love to hear what you guys think about the IPSY subscription bag, do you subscribe, and is it worth it in your opinion? What are your favorite products you have been introduced to through the IPSY bag? What the heck do you do with all of these extra makeup bags!?

ipsy review. black backroung, purple text
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Mothers Day Gifts: the sh*t she really wants

I have compiled a list of mothers day gifts for those of us lucky enough to have our mothers around. My mom is one of those super bad ass moms that not only birthed me, raised me and loved me- she continues to be my number one fan in life. She supports me and my family more than I can even describe into words.


As a mother myself, I approve every single one of these Mothers Day gifts. LOOKING AT YOU, FAMILY. While I appreciate the pinky ring my son purchased for me, (still sporting the $1 price tag,) it does not actually fit on my pudgy finger. I love it and keep it in safe keeping, and will cherish it for the next 50 years. So now that I have such a heartfelt trinket, as your mother also probably does- heres the shit moms really want.

The sh*t we really want

Subscription box

We’re not talking jam of the month. Im saying wine of the month for the lady who likes to throw them back. Try IPSY for make-up lovers, or Fab Fit Fun for moms who love a little bit of everything. I reviewed the IPSY GLAM BAG for April 2019- see it here. They even have snack subscriptions for people with dietary restrictions. Is she KETO AF? Try Keto Crate. Is she gluten free? Try Urthbox.

Why celebrate Mom the for one day when you can celebrate her one day every month? Bring a smile to her pretty face each month when she opens the mailbox and receives a gift. I did this for my parents a few years ago when my parents were newly on the keto diet with a keto crate. They were sent snacks to try every month and they appreciated the unconventional gift idea. I think this would make a great Mothers Day gift.


Car detailing

If your moms anything like mine she has empty DP bottles floating around in her car. There’s also probably mud and old fruit snacks from my kids. Since you can’t afford to call XHIBIT and PIMP THAT RIDE, a certificate for a detailing will probably do. Groupon typically has some great deals, as well as people in your community with a small business. Strapped for cash? Just be child of the year and get out there and do that shit for her!

Write a poem

Its super cheezy and you’re gonna feel lame doing it, but i promise your mom is gonna cry. Not the kind of cry like she did the first (or second) time you got arrested, but like the time she realized she raised a thoughtful and (semi) responsible adult.

If you’re not so good with words, try a handmade card. I recently purchased a Cricut and had high hopes of making beautiful cards for Mothers Day. Once out of my manic state, I realized fancy cutting machines are not for me, so I returned it to get my $250 back. I then spent $7 on card stock and pretty stickers. My mom likes innappropriate humor so I’m gonna make something funny. She’s gonna love it.


Shutterfly photo gifts

Try a puzzle with a picture of something cool, plaques, mugs the super basic stuff. I make my mom puzzles every year with cool scenery photos from something special that year. Last year she went on an anniversary trip with my dad and had a bunch of beautiful sunset photos from Punta Cana. I went through Shutterfly and made a puzzle that ended up being extremely difficult to put together. My mom loved it, and we got to spend 7 hours working on it together.


Amazon Prime subscription

If she still runs to the store for batteries or paper towels this is what you get her. Let me tell you, as a mother of 3 boys, I am always running out of necessities, and our Amazon Prime membership is something that we value in our home. Did you know? You can even add accounts onto your prime, it may be worth investigating if you know she’s always strapped for time. Give her the gift of time with prime. See what I did there?

Your time

Speaking of time- how about some of yours. Your mom loves you. And she misses you. And she wants to spend time with you. Whether this is tickets to a comedy show or a play she has always wanted to see, or a pottery or calligraphy class, make it a date type thing. Go grab coffee or dinner and just be present. Check Groupon or your local church or community center. They’re always offering classes to check out, and they can be fairly inexpensive. My mom and I love to go thrifting, we can spend hours looking for scores. Hang out with your mom for a day and I bet she smiles.

Spa day

The only thing mom loves more than spending time with you- is spending time alone. This mostly applies to those of us who are constantly wiping butts and don’t get out much. I love my kids so much, and I think I am a better mother when I miss them just a wee bit. A trip to the salon, or a massage can be that self care time we need to feel refreshed.

As a hairstylist myself, I can confidently say that your Mom loves going to get pampered. To come into a salon, and not have to care for anyone other than herself is such a treat. The woman in your life deserves this time to herself. A relaxation massage, a moisturizing pedicure, or haircolor to brighten up her look. These services are geared at making women feel f*cking fabulous.

Clean house

The number one thing moms want: a clean house. Whether you pay a company to do this or cut out little coupons like you did when you were 7. this. is. the. gift. OKUURRRT

bad ass mothers day gift ideas

I hope you got some good ideas for Mothers Day gifts this year. It really is the shit we want (still looking at you, family.) Do you do Mothers Day gifts for your mom? Do you do them for your wife? Share below in the comments what you’re planning on this year.

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5 Minute guide to Thrifting: Where to begin

In this quick guide to thrifting I’ll share everything you need to know about thrift stores, items to buy and how to find scores!

Everone is all Marie Kondo-ing their house right now, as am I. It’s great to reduce clutter and find those things of ours that spark joy. But where does it go when it no longer serves us? Many people donate really great things that are still in excellent condition, and maybe those things that no longer serve them, can begin to serve you. Here is my 5 minute guide to thrifting: what you need to know.

I am not saying go buy up all the junk you think you need, because that is not what thrifting is about.

guide to thrifting: everything you need to know

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I’m saying, some great, useful, even purposeful items can be found for pennies on the dollar at your local thrift store.

This is a 5 minute guide explaining how to thrift.

First, I’ll briefly share with you my why.

My Mom started my love of thrifting at a young age. She started when she was a child with her mother, it’s basically in my blood, ok? My Mom is the coolest person I know, so anything she does, I wanna do. This includes thrifting (and being a Browns fan, there’s always next THIS year, we love you Baker Mayfield!)

Back to my humble thrift beginnings.

I remember I could pick out anything I wanted, price was no issue and as a child, that was really cool. As a kid, brand names did not really appeal to me, but camping, and beach houses did. I appreciate that my parents spent money on things like vacations rather than that really cool shirt at Limited Too I was probably asking for.

Throughout my life, I have had different “why’s”. Before I had all these kids, I had so much time to craft, I love repurposing and redecorating, paint and mod-podge. Crafting is my stress-reliever, and I used to have so much time to do it. I would hit the thrift store up and buy ugly things with plans to make them beautiful and useful. I once bought a couple kitchen chairs for $25, gave them a fresh coat of paint, and they lasted us 4 years.

These days, as a mother of 3 growing boys who seem to only fit into clothes for like, 2 months, it just makes sense to thrift. Every item I buy is in great to excellent condition, and I save so much money!


It’s not always easy, and it can be time-consuming, if you’re searching for something specific such as matching Easter outfits for your fam, I don’t recommend holding out to find it at Goodwill.


The hunt is fun to me, it actually helps reduce my anxiety. I focus on the items I look at, evaluate the ones that catch my eye, and most importantly: assess if it fits our needs. This guide to thrifting will help you decide if thrifting is right for you and your family, and how to go about it.


Ok, now that you know my why, here is how to be successful on your thrift trip.

Know the lingo: things you find that bring you so much joy are called SCORES!

My Mom coined the term, I use it, my son uses, it, I think everyone should use it. We celebrate when we find something cool, or odd, or that we totally needed and were gonna pay full price for anyway.


This one is important, so listen up.

I only buy if it serves a purpose for my me, or my household.

I used to just buy things because I liked them, the print, or the shape of something, but those days are over. It’s really easy to buy a vase or 9 (yes, I went through a thing where I kept buying odd shaped vases to put my pretty dried out flowers in.) It can get out of control, and you could start a dead flower cemetary on top of a bookshelf, but that’s a conversation for a different day.


If you absolutely have to have it, but have no place or purpose for it, buy it and gift it to a friend.

Once, I found a Dunder Mifflin shirt in a size way too small for me that I could not pass up for 3 bucks. It brought me so much joy as I was flipping through the racks and came across this gem. I knew I would never be a size small, so I sent it snail mail style to a friend who loves The Office almost as much as I do. It made her smile too.

Worried about pre-owned clothes? Check out my guide of what to buy at the thrift store where I share how to properly clean and disinfect items I buy at the thrift store.

Everytime you make a trip, be sure to bring a bag of things from your home to donate.

This should be taken seriously. As a rule, for every new “score” I find, and bring home, I get rid of whatever it’s replacing. That sweater thats scratchy, but so cute-ditch it. Those toys that end up all over the floor everyday, but never get played with- toss them in a bag and turn them into the donation center. Some stores will give you a coupon to use on your next purchase, mine does 20% off every time you donate. SCORE!


This brings me to my next tip.


Get a loyalty card.

I know, I hate having a bunch of little tags on my keychain too, but how am I supposed to find them without all of those little tags to spot out? If your thrift store has a loyalty program, it’s beneficial to have a loyalty card. Mine offers 30% off a total purchase once a month, and for every $100 you spend you get a 20% off coupon. They can even look me up in the system so I can ditch that little blue tag.


Get the scoop on half off days.


Many thrift stores offer some major discounts. Take these discounts to the next level by shopping on half-off days. There’s a store near me that does everything 50% off on Mondays, or a certain color tag 75% off on specific days. Become familiar with these sales as they can save some serious dough.

Inspect everything!

  • Looking at clothes?

Be sure to check all lining, buttons, zippers, and look closely for stains. Once I bought an Under Armour hoodie that was in perfect condition, or so I thought for 4 bucks. I got home and discovered there was a tear on the sleeve cuff, not noticeable, but I wouldn’t have bought it had I paid more attention.

clothing aisle at the thrift store
  • How about accessories

These are another thing to inspect meticulously. You can find a great purse, or wallet, or belt. Just be sure to check every pocket and compartment for wear and tear. (Or money, once I found a 10 spot in a pocket, heeyyyyyy!)

  • Shopping for house wares?

Inspect for nicks, scratches and imperfections. you can find some great things, I have found quite a few fun coffee mugs that I love, but not every trip is one full of fabulous finds.

  • Appliances

Appliances that work can be found. I highly suggest plugging that lamp in before you buy, and if you absolutely have to have that cake pop maker, you risk it not working in proper fashion. But, cakepops. AMIRITE?

  • Furniture

This can be total hit or miss, the only real furniture I have ever purchased from the thrift is a bookshelf. A big, sturdy, very heavy bookshelf. I was getting ready to purchase a very expensive, low quality bookshelf online out of necessity (our old one fell apart, and we had books covering our kitchen table.) This was something I was not going to wait around for, I needed it. I ended up finding one at the thrift store near my house for $24. Bonus, it was half off that day, so I got a very nice, large bookshelf for 11 bucks. Major SCORE!

Take your time!

I know, time is hard to come by, I can spend 2 hours easily, just browsing my thrift store. I imagine these tiny little teacups in a tiny grandmas house, while serving pie on this pretty pie plate that has the recipe printed right on it. And it’s oh-so-vintage and fabulous. I don’t need it, but I like looking at it. It can be a time-consuming activity if you’re not focused.

There’s alot of junk in these stores, so be prepared to hunt! What are your best thrift store finds? Share them with me in the comments!

Now that you know HOW, take a look at what the best things to buy at the thrift store are with my guide: 8 BEST things to buy at the thrift store!


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